This is an Email Q/A series. If you want to send in your Psychological problems, please e.ail them to
Email: peacefulpolymath@gmail.com
They will be published anonymously in the " Problem Solved" section of this blog
"Hello Psychologist Ash,
I hope you are doing well.
I am an overachiever. In fact, I am addicted to Success.
I have this Type A behavior and I have a timetable and I want to schedule and achieve all my goals.
The thing is I overheard one of my best friends making fun of my accomplishments. I am hurting inside.
I do not know why he publicly trashed me. We have been friends for so long. Recently, I got promoted and he was not even considered for the promotion.
I have invested so much time in this friendship. He is always welcome at my home. I leave everything when he comes along. Even my schedule. My routine
I do not know why he did that. Maybe he is jealous or just unhappy. But I feel bad.
Yes I feel lonely and betrayed too.
I work so hard. I have so many goals and high expectations from.myself.
It is not about proving myself to my boss. Or my family. Or anyone.
I think I overachieve and work hard with excessive efforts to prove myself to myself.
I do not want to disappoint myself
I do not want to be a loser.
And I am strong, always have been.
But his attitude and backbiting has killed.me emotionally.
Why did I even spend a single moment with a person who makes fun of me. I should have build better relationships with my family members.
Thank you for listening"
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This is how an overachiever thinks. The curse of being an overachiever is that friends are even jealous of you.
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